This week’s TG Spotlight shines on tough mama and wife, Roanna Jamir. We were colleagues in two different companies and we also became friends. She’s the definition of a Jill-of-all-trades, someone who has the aptitude to learn many things easily, and her zest for life is truly contagious. Read on below to find out more.
Roanna turned 36 this year and celebrated a new year in life by counting her blessings–the biggest ones being her husband and her 2-year old son. Ever since she was 21, Roanna had dabbled in countless fields of work: scriptwriting, dubbing, teaching, radio show hosting (we actually used to work for the same radio station), she was a sales manager, and a singer for a rock band. All those, however, fell on the wayside when she became a news anchor (another fun coincidence was she came to work for CNN Philippines several months after I had started working there as news anchor myself). Today, she resides in one of the beautiful tourist destinations in the Philippines, Boracay Island, with her husband and son. Sounds like an easy, charming life? Keep reading.
A few years ago, she faced one of the most emotionally trying times of her life. Someone she had cared about deeply broke her heart twice. As if dealing with a heartbreak wasn’t painful enough, she was also dealing with her mother’s terminal illness and the gut-wrenching request of her mother to give her a grand child whether or not she was in a relationship. Peer pressure from friends didn’t help either–as they chided her to marry for the sake of it or at ‘least have a kid’ so she doesn’t ‘end up all alone for being picky.’
I’ve said it before as I’ve experienced it myself, “Breakups make Bodybuilders.” In Roanna’s case, she didn’t get into competitive bodybuilding like I did, but it did get her in the gym every single day. She used exercise as her outlet and was so committed to it as a better distraction from the noise of the outside world, that even when she was hungover from a night of drinking, she would still workout. While some people eat their emotions away, she decided that if she were to end up old and alone, she would at least do it looking good! She committed to it and stuck with it until she finally met the man of her dreams who would later on become her husband.
With her sweet, shy smile and occasionally introverted personality, you couldn’t tell that she actually has ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyper Activity Disorder). It’s a challenge for her to do just one thing. She was very career-driven but has since learned to slow down and enjoy life. Her priorities right now are taking care of her family and consistently working on making herself better everyday in all aspects: emotional, physical, and spiritual.
Roanna turned to exercise and an active lifestyle to help her cope with demands of work and stress. She would run a mile every day and then hit the gym for a session because aside from becoming stronger and healthier, it gave her the emotional boost she needed to calm her whenever she felt the weight of stressful situations.
I think to be tough simply means knowing who you are, what you want and understanding what you need to do to get it done…We can’t always control what happens in our lives, but what we can control is how we feel about the situation and the actions we take. Knowing that and continuously making a better version of yourself no matter what happens; that to me is being tough.